Settling For A Situationship

Situationships seem to be the trend these days. As my single friends and I converse it’s quite apparent how difficult it is to get in a relationship. Why that is?… Hmm… A mystery unsolved. Perhaps we (not all but most) have allowed situationships to actually suffice to make us happy. But are you truly happy?

You have this guy you’re talking to has his own place, you guys text every day, he takes you to lunch/dinner sometimes and maybe you get to  point where you sleep with him. But only on the weekends because during the week he’s too busy for you. But is that all that needs to be done to win your heart?

I discovered today when talking to a friend that sometimes we only tell a portion of the story so it doesn’t seem so bad. Her guy friend is nice looking, has a car, his own place, a job and only one child. I was sold! She was in fact almost winning with just those qualifications. Let me add that it’s almost sad that we have to set those qualifications. But back to the story. After a long investigation, she goes on to tell me that he never wanted to get married, have more children and that he felt comfortable with them just being sexual partners and nothing more. This was because he was currently digging someone else but he was unsure if that person would ever date him though.

Well the most positive thing out this was that he was completely honest. But after he said that, she convinced herself that that’s probably what she wanted to out of the deal. She said she was in her 30’s and getting older and her chances of marrying and having children are slimming by the day. That, my friends, is how some of these situationships start. She’s settling for something she doesn’t really want because she has someone to talk to and sleep with (some of the time). I don’t think that’s fair to her. But maybe we have to experience a real life situationship for us to know for sure if that’s what we want/don’t want.

~Am I N_My_Write_Mind?


Not Guilty Intentions or Desperate Intentions…But Unintentional!

I’m so elated that I received an unexpected text this morning. I haven’t talked to this person for about a year and a half. So when I received the text, it came as a major surprise.

To sum it up, the person expressed how I inspired them and mentioned their huge accomplishment. Their first book is coming soon. I smiled with joy as I had no idea that I’d unintentionally encouraged someone. It’s always my intention to write, motivate and inspire. But for it to come unknowingly, was a different type of feeling. I knew at that moment, my efforts had not gone unnoticed. I always said that if I could encourage or touch one person, then I could be on the right track to inspire even more.

I’ll be honest. There are times when I want to play the role of Negative Nelly and complain, gripe and groan. But I realize that everything isn’t all that bad and it can always be worse. But, this is just proof that people watch you no matter what you do or say. We have to be careful in how we live and speak in front of others. I could have said something to this very same person that was negative and could have deterred them from taking a big leap of faith to complete a big accomplishment.

Now, I do see another opportunity. Perhaps, I can strengthen my inspiration skills and encourage more individuals by staying in my Write Mind. The point here is to try to always be and or set an example because you never know who’s watching. Although people may not see the true struggle in pursuing your dreams. They don’t see the hard work, long hours, stress, money and patience. All they see is that you got it done. That’s unintentional inspiration!

~Am I N_My_Write_Mind?

P.S. Yes, the title was a intentional plug to purchase my books!

Pretty Red Exterior

Some cars have a pretty red exterior but the engine doesn’t function. At that point, what good is that car for if it only portrays a nice shiny color?

I was talking to one of my friends about his vehicle this morning. He explained that he feared that it would break down on him at any time. I was surprised that he was having trouble with this car. I had to ask if he had another car that I didn’t know about… If you were to look at the exterior of his car, you have no clue that it was on the verge of falling apart. The paint is nice, the fabric is clean and it has the new car smell. But under that hood.. Oh Boy! It’s a different story. I lost count of how many things he said was wrong with the car.

That’s how we are are as people. We look just fine on the outside. Our exterior is grand and we put on a front that we’re ok. Our skin is vibrant, illuminating and shimmery. But that doesn’t show how black our hearts are. This is another reason why we shouldn’t judge people based on how they look or dress. We can cover up with clothes and make-up. But eventually what’s killing us inside will eventually start to show.

I’ve run into people who feed off of comments of what they look like on the outside. They have every intention on making themselves look the best every morning. But what they don’t care to work on is how ugly their personality is. How can you expect someone to find you attractive if you treat people poorly?

What will eventually happen is the darkness of your heart will start to show on the outside. Just like a broken down car. It will start off as something small being wrong. You may try to cover it up or get a quick, cheap fix. But that quick fix will lead to something else going wrong. Then the next thing you know, something major will go wrong and it will break down.

Don’t be that car with a pretty red exterior with a jacked up engine. A non functioning car is of no use to anyone but the owner of a junk yard.

~Am I N_My_Write_Mind?