Life On Cruise Control

So I had a moment this morning while I on my way to work. As soon as I got off the freeway, I followed behind this man who was driving under the speed limit. He was just cruising along with no care in the world. Sunglasses on, windows down and arm rested on the door. My immediate reaction was “OMG. Why are your driving so slow? You can at least drive the speed limit!” Internally, I cussed him for a couple of blocks. As I sped past him, he never looked my way. He continued with the same posture going slowly toward his destination. He wasn’t worried about who sped past time. No cares given about what others thought.

After much thought, it must be nice not to rush. It must be nice to just enjoy the drive and the scenery without a care in the world. While the rest of us were rushing to get somewhere, he cruised on taking in every bit of second. It was almost as if he had the car on cruise control.

Some of us need to our lives on cruise control.  We rush to get to red lights. We rush to get there on time. We rush because we were unsuccessful with time management. I get anxious trying to figure out what’s next. I worry what will happen if I do this or if I do that. I know I’m not the only person who wants control over the future.

How about we stop worrying about what’s up ahead and face it when we get there? Just like those red lights on the roads, we’ll experience some of those. But that doesn’t mean we don’t get to continue on to our journeys.

Maybe that drive into work was to tell to put my life on cruise control and just ride out. I’ll eventually get to where I need to be. Perhaps it’s just not in the same fashion as others. But I’ll get there.

~Am I N_My_Write_Mind?


We Gained A Legacy

I’ve kept quiet about this only because I’ve felt uneasy. I know it’s late. But truth is, that I’m really angry. When will this ever end? Every time something like this happens, there is always some type of proof of something else to take the attention off what really happened. She did this wrong. She did that wrong. She was this kind of person. She was that kind of person. What about what the police officer who did not follow correct procedures. What about the staff at the jail who did not follow correct procedures? I almost feel lost that justice will not be served because it’s their word against what really happened.

What’s real here is that she never should have been arrested. Police officers can do what the hell they want, say what the hell they want and break any law they feel. Seems like when police officers take an oath, it’s an automatic license to kill.

I’m not saying that all police are bad. But I do think that social media has allowed us to bring light to the corrupt system. We already knew the system was set up for us to fail. But with the assistance of social media, we can spread the word farther and faster.

Sandra Bland was my Soror. I may have not ever met her before, but she left behind a legacy. The cause of death was that she killed herself. It’s just a rumor that she killed herself with a trash bag. I refuse to believe that this woman all of a sudden took her own life.

I can only continue to pray for her family and friends. To our Sorors, we lost a sister but we gained a legacy left behind.

#SigmasStickTogether #SisterCircle #SandraSpeaks #JusticeForSandy

Worried About Mr. and Mrs. Jones

Who’s keeping up with the Joneses? No one should. We should all be minding our own business and not worried about what Mr. and Mrs. Jones are doing. You ever come into contact with that person that always wants to be one up from you? You know that one that always reminds you, “Anything you can do, I can do better” or “I have more than what you have.”

Newsflash: No one cares that you have more than they do.

People only want you to do better, until you are doing better than they are. What we should be worried about is how everyone on the team succeeds. It’s not about having THE best or being THE best. It’s about obtaining the best that works for you. Everything does not need to be a competition. You can get yourself in a bind when you play that game. You can start to become materialistic and your debt and stress start to increase. What sense does that make just to keep up with your neighbor?

I like to stay in my lane so I know I’m not racing anyone but myself. But some people like to merge right on over into the neighbor’s lane to race. Why do we have to make a competition out of every aspect of our lives? That’s because some people can’t stand to see you doing better or have the same things as you. It’s not until you buy a new car or new house and then here they come trying to be one up from you. But in the back of your mind, they really are trying to keep up.

By the way, the Joneses may just be putting up a front. For all you know, they could be trying to keep up with you. Be confident in who you are so you don’t fall into comparing and competing with anyone else. But please humble yourselves and know we aren’t better than anyone. We are simply DIFFERENT than everyone. You can steal your own joy by comparing yourself and competing with your neighbor.

~Am I N_My_Write_Mind?