My friend mentioned something that didn’t seem like a big deal at first. But after thinking about it, I think it’s a great deal. She said she needed to work on saying “no” more often. What did she mean by that? Well the idea came from her not having a firm way of saying no to people when she didn’t want to do something.
Example: Co-worker you really don’t talk to asks you to go to lunch. Her response would be “umm I have a lot of work to do. I’ll just stay here and get caught up.” The issue here would be that she really doesn’t have a lot of work. She just didn’t know how to say no.
We don’t always have to give people a reason when we say no. We always want to justify why we are saying no. But this comes from people wanting us to say yes and we feel bad if we say no. We think that adding a rational reason for the answer no, then it goes over a little easier with the requestor.
Saying “no thank you” should be good enough. “No thank you” sounds a little more positive than just “no”. But no means no. If we don’t want to participate, do something, give something or whatever it is, we should be able to say no. But people seem offended when we just say no.
Our only obligation is to do things that will make us happy and things that interests us. If it doesn’t make you happy or you just aren’t interested, then the answer should be “no”. There is a lot of power in saying no to those things and people that don’t line up with what we want to do.
~Am I N_My_Write_Mind?