Worry About Yourself

You ever wonder why someone wears certain clothing or does something a certain way? Don’t. It’s not your business why unless its affecting you directly. Don’t get me wrong, I’m easily bothered by people who continue to perform actions that know they are irritating to me. However, it’s not killing me. I remember as a child, I always got in trouble or blamed for things I really didn’t do. But it was always small stuff. Eventually, those who didn’t get in trouble at the time got their time later…. Ooh sweet revenge! I’m sure we’ve all seen people look a certain way or get away with murder. But guess what, that’s them and not you.

I’ve had to tell myself a few times to keep it moving and worry about myself and what I have going on. I have too many issues, problems and decisions to make to worry about what he or she has going on. It only to make sense to ask yourself, why you worried about who they are and what they have doing? Let them continue to be themselves they’ll eventually hang themselves out to dry.

As long as you are doing what you are supposed to do and are doing the right thing then that’s all that matters. Consume your time with making yourself better. Take the time out to evaluate yourself and your situation. Keep in mind that it’s twice as much energy to worry two people than one… Worry About Yourself

~Am I N_My_Write_Mind?


My Name Is Write Mind And I Have A Problem With Words

This is one of those, “I stepped on my own toes by opening my mouth blogs”…..So I find out yesterday that one of my good friends said she doesn’t call when she has a situation because she knows I’ll tell her the truth. Ta ha! Here I am thinking it was because of our busy lives.

Later that evening she then went on to say “that’s why people are scared to speak up because people get called out.” What a convicting statement. She was right. I definitely didn’t mean to come across as calling her out. I felt bad. Again, I had opened up my mouth thinking it was just an honest statement. Dang it, I did it again. Is there a “I talk too much anonymous.”

Earlier I read a column that sometimes we talk too much. Many times being a good friend means sitting back, listening and just being an extra ear. No need to always say how you really feel. Your friend may already be down. No need to create a situation by making hurtful statements.

So with that being said, I’m learning to turn down my instinct to give words of advice or my opinion. My opinion is not always needed. Although I may think I’m always just being a voice of reasoning with my honest words, it could be more hurtful than helpful.

Reflecting back on a previous post…. Sometimes Your Delivery Can Be Hurtful… I’m working on it.

~Am I N_My_Write_Mind?


Be More Creative

I kept hearing everyone talk about Pinterest. Today I actually decided to join. I was in for a rude awakening. I became overwhelmed by the circle of do-it-yourself, fashion, humor, etc. I instantly stepped into idea bliss. Just when I thought nothing else could put me into bliss other than writing, music and jewelry. Viewing everyone else’s pins I have yet to post my own pins.

Just from looking at a fe photos, I was touched my the motivation fairy. After clicking on a few DIY links, I thought, “If I owned my own home this would be such a fun experience to try all of these ideas.” So then I became encouraged in several different ways. My mind was running out of space from notes to self:

1.Start saving money to buy home

2. Wear more make-up

3. Be more fashionable

4. Clean out boxes of decorations

The note to self that kept popping up: BE MORE CREATIVE. Someone else’s ideas striked me to create my own ideas. So aside from writing, I’ve made a vow to myself to dip into this pool of unspoken ideas in my head. BE MORE CREATIVE!

~Am I N_My_Write_Mind?

Office Etiquette

After today’s events, I thought I’d just release a public service announcement for office workers. I also work in an office and often have encountered a few individuals who have violated these codes. I’ve compiled a list of the most violated codes from myself and friends. Please don’t become a violator of office etiquette!

1. When someone says bless you, it’s always polite to say thank you. We know you believe in God so it’s not considered offensive. We also know you heard the words “Bless You”. You are always butting in other people’s conversations. Which leads me to #2

2. Don’t be nosey. We have conversations at work to help us pass the time. However, when we are talking about something and are talking low, it’s for a reason. Stop turning around to see what the conversation is about.

3.Don’t come to the workplace loaded with liquor. Hello! It’s a small space. We can smell you and your breath. We don’t care that you get throwed when you aren’t at work. Heck, I would if my spirit allowed me too.

4. If you borrow something from someone else’s desk, it’s not that difficult to return it.

5.Again, we are in a office space. Don’t talk like you are near a subway station and can’t hear. It’s one of my pet peeves when I’m on the phone talking and someone comes behind me and starts to yell like they have a hearing problem.

6.Please keep your shoes on of they are not up to par. If you know you have a foot odor of skin problem, please do not reveal that to the entire team!

7.If you are having a bad day, please keep to yourself. We don’t want any of your bad energy. You came to work so get over it. Its your job and you signed up for it.

8.Take your personal cell phone conversations away from everyone else. We don’t want to hear you cursing out your husband or arguing with bill collector. Keep to yourself.

9. If you are going to eat snacks at your desk, please eat quietly. We don’t want to hear your every bite along with every swallow. Smacking and loud crunching are not pleasant sounds when we are trying to concentrate.

10. Please do not clip your nails at your desk. There is a risk of them flying into someone else’s cube. That’s something that should be done in the privacy of your own home or in the bathroom.

~Am I N_My_Write_Mind?


I’m in a Green Mood Or Is It Blue?

Its no secret that I wear acrylic on my nails. It makes them stronger while the polish lasts longer. Not to mention… I type better with them. Having freshly painted nails can give you an instant mood change.

But my problem isn’t the nail itself. My issue is with the polish. I get excited with a fresh paint color. But then I get that overwhelming feeling when deciding a color. We have so many brands and colors to choose from. When I get fill ins, I’m forced to choose a color that I’m going to be comfortable with for two weeks. Do I just get one color? Do I get multiple colors? Should I get a design? Or how about trying a new polish that has special effects… You get my frustration? You would think this was a midlife crisis and major life changing decision.

It seems so easy. But I tend to get bored easily. This time around, I was in a green mood. Yesterday, I felt like a black or grey. Today, I think I’m in royal blue mood. I can never tell. It’s just a little difficult to choose one color and remain in that color mood. So while I have green today, who knows what color mood I’ll be in tomorrow or next week.

If color changes were free, I would probably spend most of my time in a nail shop. This is only because I’m so indecisive about what color mood I’m in! What a ridiculous, yet frustrating decision. Oh, the joys of first world problems.

~Am I N_My_Write_Mind?


The Truth Is I Miss Him

We all know that going through the break up stage and getting over someone is one of the most difficult trials to go through. I think it’s especially hard when you are the person who initiated the break up. All kinds of feelings like guilty, overwhelm, freedom, frustrated, etc all arise at the same time. In the end, I still have my doubts that I did the right thing. But things happen for a reason and what’s done is done.

I had that ugly feeling when I realized that it wasn’t going to work the way it should. I won’t get into the problems that we had. But what I will say is that there’s a thin line between giving someone chances and putting your life on hold so they can catch up to your level. Truth is, we should have been at the same level from the beginning. I expect respect, time and attention. We all have certain things going on in our lives but those three should be automatic along with trust. If you lack these things, you lack potential for that relationship that will work.

When I made the decision to break things off, I went into it with a positive light. Maybe we are meant to be together (just not at the moment). Sometimes we have to just let things go in order for them to come back to us. We and I repeat WE need to grow individually before we grow together. I need to work on my relationship with God first among other things. The same for him. I think once we have some time apart to really decide what we want, then we can mature together.

I felt compelled to get my feelings out instead of holding them in and pretending. I miss him. It is what it is. I blocked his number for two reasons. 1. So he couldn’t call me and 2. So I couldn’t call him. I did it for my own sake. I already knew I would either get that urge to call just hear his voice. Or I knew I would call when something happens just out of habit.

They say it’s 21 days to break a habit. I’m not near day 21 at all!

~Am I N_My_Write_Mind?